Is money masculine or feminine?

by Tara Agacayak on April 17, 2017

When I decided to start my coaching practice, I became a business owner.


In order to build a sustainable, thriving business, I have been studying with a mentor who has told me things like:

Money is masculine because it provides and protects.”

And also:

“Money is tied to the root chakra

As well as:

“Money is currency and currency is energy.”


And as I’ve built my business, I’ve also worked on my relationship with money – from the inside out and the outside in.



I’ve done a lot of work in therapy and in mentorship around my beliefs and conditioning about money.

How my relationship with money was modeled for me.

How I was conditioned to understand its role in my life.

How to understand my unconscious beliefs around money.

And to see the feast & famine patterns that were showing up in my life around money.

This work is the inner work.



In contrast, I’ve also worked with my coach on how to build the structures that will help me create a thriving, sustainable business.

That is, what are my services, what is the value I am offering to my clients, and what packages and pricing structures reflect that value?

Then, how do I convey that value in my marketing and in my conversations with people?

And I found that working both inside out and outside in have been necessary for me to  build up my business.



In 2016, I completed a coaching practicum in order to earn my certification and tracked my rates from September 2016 to April 2017.

201612 Divine Living Academy Certificate for Tara Lutman Agacayak original

  • In October 2016 I doubled my rates
  • In November 2016 I doubled my rates again
  • In December 2016 I doubled my rates again and I earned the same amount of money from my coaching business as my husband earned in his full time job, enabling me to make equal contributions to our family finances
  • In February 2017 I doubled my rates again
  • In March and April 2017 I again met and surpassed my husband’s full time income, but I did it in half the time

But it wasn’t as easy as simply raising my rates.

At each level I felt discomfort, both at the level I was at, and also at what it was going to take to jump to the next level.

At each growth point, I could see the results my clients were getting and I could see the value of coaching to help them get those results.

It felt uncomfortable for me to stay at my current rates because I could feel that raising my rates would also help me create more value for my clients.

And even though I could feel myself ready to grow, I could also feel the discomfort of having new conversations around my new rates.

That’s when I would dive into the inner work with my coach or therapist or mentor, and experience new awareness, uncover deeper patterns, transform old conditioning and beliefs.



In my own journey to transform my relationship with money in order to build a sustainable, thriving business and to be of higher service to my clients, I have come to see the masculinity of money in how it provides and protects, but most especially, my own ability to harness this power for myself – to use money as a vehicle to provide for myself and my family.

And as my business grows, I know this is not the end of the journey.

I invite you to join me in diving deeper into this discussion over at The Creative Impact Studio where I’ve recorded a video talking more about this subject and my personal experience.


Add your own voice to the conversation, ask me your questions, share your own experiences here in this thread.


5 Things to Love About The Fashion Fund

by Tara Agacayak on April 7, 2017

As I was doing some research on Anna Wintour for my Facebook community, Creative Impact Studio, I was watching a number of YouTube clips of The Fashion Fund.

Watching what the fashion community is doing for the American fashion industry, inspired me to put together these five things we can all learn from this program.

The Benefits of Nurturing Creative Self-Expression

Everyone has their “thing”, the way that they show up in the world. They way they filter and channel creative energy. For some people this is music, for some food, for some writing, engineering, construction, teaching.

What I know from my own clients is that stifling this creative energy is damaging to their mental and emotional and sometimes even physical health which is why we work to help them use their creative energy in a productive way.

The fashion industry recognized the opportunity to facilitate creative self-expression through fashion and went about to set up a program to help nurture and guide young designers.

Having a system or program or process to help you know yourself better and express yourself in a way that feels natural and authentic is an important part of living and being in the world.

The Strength in Combining the Masculine & the Feminine

In these clips you often see the mentors talking about the integration of commercial and creative. As they filter through the selection process, they are looking for designers who both have a strong aesthetic and unique point of view as well as a strong head for business.

This is a great example of how the masculine and feminine work together.

The feminine is the vision, the imagination, the experience; while the masculine provides the systems and the structures that support the feminine into being (please don’t confuse this with gender).

The finalists in this program demonstrate the best integration of both masculine structures and feminine vision – the commercial and the creative.

The Power of Mentorship

As we identify and work toward our goals, a mentor can help us by guiding our steps and opening doors.

It is our job to take the risk and find the courage and confidence to walk through those doors, but a mentor can help things go faster and smoother and help us avoid pitfalls along the way.

The Importance of Giving Back

In both of our religious traditions, my husband’s and mine, there is a history of “tithing” back to the community.

When we were first married, we studied the history of tithing and read about how farmers would notice that if they did not collect 100% of the harvest, but left a small percentage on the field, that it would grow up next year, and create even more bounty.

Giving back creates even more abundance.

For the fashion community, they are investing in the development of the future of their industry, nurturing talent, sharing experience, and paving the way forward.

How Being Challenged Helps You Grow

Erin Beatty of SUNO said of the program, it’s a “terrifying process, but amazing the results that you can get out of yourself.”

This made me think of what one of my coaches often says, that you can’t solve a problem at the same frequency at which it was created.

You become a different person in the process of solving problems and overcoming challenges.

You grow and transform.

A good coach and mentor will do this for you – they will push you so you can see how strong, resourceful and capable you are.

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